Words Matter

“In the beginning was the Word…” John 1: 1

For many years the opening prologue to the Gospel of John has given me much to ponder. I still don’t know exactly what those words mean, but I do know that they have a way of working on me, pulling me into some sacred direction, and giving more depth to my life and my faith. Today, in our current environment, that opening prologue clearly is calling me to say out loud, “Words matter.”

WordI feel like I shouldn’t have to say this, but recent events such as the pipe bomb scare and the horrific massacre of Jewish worshipers in the Squirrel Hill neighborhood of Pittsburgh and the ensuing dialogue about who is responsible, forces me to say what shouldn’t have to be said, but must be said again.


Why do I say this? Because I wouldn’t be writing this blog every week unless I believed that my words had some impact on the life and the spirit of the presbytery. I don’t HAVE to write a blog. In fact, my life would be much easier if I didn’t carve out a three to four hour period every week to write. I have enough emails to respond to, committees to support, staff to supervise, and churches to visit that adding a few hours just to write a few words takes a monumental effort of discipline and organization. If words don’t matter I will quit this silly exercise right now.

CrosswordBut I write because I believe that words matter. I write because I believe that a few words can actually have more effect on our presbytery than checking off a long list of “to do’s” in my daily calendar. I write because words have power. I write because worlds are not built just with our hands, but are built by the sentences and paragraphs that we fashion into concepts, inspiring sermons, and revealing poems.

And here is the thing about words. I am in a position of some authority. I don’t believe that I am so powerful that I can say something and expect that everyone will immediately follow my lead. But I do believe that my words have the power to subtly shift how we think about ourselves and what commitments we make. I might be wrong but I believe that my words have a subtle way of giving permission for our behavior and for constraining our behavior. I am in a position where I get to set the tone for the life of our presbytery. I am in a position where at least some people are taking what I say seriously and acting on what they hear. I do not take this responsibility lightly.

Here is the deal. If I say something that causes you to act in a way that is irresponsible, you are responsible for making the choice that you made. I can’t make you do anything. You get to be ultimately responsible for your choices, whether they are good or bad. But that doesn’t get me off the hook. Because I am also responsible for creating an environment where your irresponsible choice was made easier, seemed more permissible, and had encouragement from me in my place of authority. I can’t make you behave badly, but I can nudge you in that direction by what I say.

Jewish signTo those who say that our highest elected officials can’t be held accountable for the decisions and the actions of a pipe bomb suspect, I would say that they are technically correct. To those who say that blame for the slaughter of innocent Jewish worshipers can’t be placed on the shoulders of those who overtly endorse violent behavior, I would again say they are technically correct.

But those of us in positions of authority don’t get the same pass that Joe or Sue on the street get. It’s one thing for your next door neighbor to say “Any guy who can do a body slam is my kinda guy.” It’s a whole other thing for me to say something like that, for a parent to say that to a child, for a principal to say it to a student, for a pastor to say it to a parishioner or for a president to say it to a country.

Those of us in positions of authority recognize that our greatest tool is not our ability to fix a car or serve a meal or design a house. Our greatest tool is the platform we have been given to use the power of our words. Words always matter. But in our positions words can mean the difference between hope and despair. Words can make the difference between feeling a violent impulse and hearing permission to act on it.

“In the beginning was the Word…”

Don’t tell me that words don’t matter.

This is the stuff of life and death.


3 thoughts on “Words Matter

  1. I could not agree more that words mater, as do actions too.
    However we need to often look in the mirror here too.

    Without a doubt our President has made many statements he should not have, but then you have a media that has long before this president came on the scene has been shaping what they want persons to think and know and omitting so much news that affect so many of us living outside the “Bubble”.
    Then you have the fact the media in general is full of so much negativity and hate. Where is the outrage about SNL going after the Baltimore PD? When people target cops, is SNL going to get called out, including by those in the church? I seriously doubt it!

    Back to actions, even the Israeli Prime Minister compared our president to the ancient Persian King Cyrus in part because of instead of just words which are often not well chosen, he took action (unlike his predecessors) and recognized Jerusalem as the capital of the Jewish people and state.

    And finally back to words; Interestingly, I think your last blog post in Facebook should have been a good conversations starter, but instead it turned into a judgmental attack on persons of different Christian faiths.
    For me personally, I posted a comment that was 100% factually true as per my life and industry, then followed by a few examples.
    Instead of asking me to explain better I was deemed “painfully simplistic” in my understanding of Economics!
    Really? I guess my never getting less than an A in college or high school business classes means nothing, or the fact I am well respected within my industry (in fact just yesterday, the largest importer and distributor of premium marine fish and supplies called me to get some of my thoughts on the difficulties our industry is facing).
    I then posted a brief explanation of why I used my examples, including a blog post that gives multiple examples to prove one of comments.
    The result? Thumbs up for the attacks on me and what my family and business has faced and ZERO defense of myself, not even a this is not OK from anyone, which is frightening to me considering this should have been a safe spot to post such a “Cry for help:” on a minsters FB page, but obviously it was clearly NOT.

    Similar happened in a FB post you made right after the 2016 election that resulted in no one (including yourself) standing up and saying woa, this is not OK!
    This resulted in my oldest daughter leaving the church to this day.

    For me as well as my middle daughter and wife who later read this, was a feeling of abandonment by the church.
    Now they have lost the rest of my family

    In the end, the Presbyterian Church really needs to start looking in the mirror before they start point fingers elsewhere.


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